Zach learned to be a beta in college, and now I am teaching him to be a man (Part II)

Being a man takes practice

(This post will make sense in light of part I, since it’s a continuation of Part I.)

Another time, Zach and I were walking and saw two drunk fives, one of whom was loudly berating the other about something or other. I opened them about something the loud one was saying; the loud one was even less attractive than the target. But we began talking to them, or realistically I began talking to them, and something about the target's boyfriend came up, who the loud one didn't like. I said that the target girl should break up with her boyfriend and date Zach instead. That led to some chat about relationships (a topic girls love... try to talk to girls about math and see how fast the p***y clamps shut, despite math underpinning all that is good about the modern world), and I introduced myself to the loud girl. Suddenly, after I shook her hand and made intense eye contact with her, she became quiet. The initial obnoxiousness vanished while I talked to her. I don't remember exactly what I talked about, but it was something about her boyfriend.

Zach was set up to talk to the target, which he did. The groups merged again, and the target tried to give Zach her Instagram. I said "No, no, no, Instagram is bullshit and we all know it." That got her to disgorge her number to Zach. After, Zach asked about the Instagram thing, and I explained how girls use Instagram for attention. He got, verbally, a lot of Red Quest thought, while most readers here get Red Quest thought through writing, which is the superior medium, despite what Socrates thought... Socrates was wrong about the virtues of speaking versus writing, as he was wrong about so much else. I don't get why people still study him, unless it's to signal to others that they're highbrow enough to learn worthless ideas. Marcus Aurelius led men into war, while Socrates sat around wanking. Who do you think has more valuable ideas?

In the set, Zach made the mistake of asking too many questions, but he also saw me at work, making statements, assumptions, and cold reads about the girls, instead of plying them with beta questions.

Uncle Red Quest has been instructing Zach in how masculinity and game basics help with many encounters, and showing him the way towards game success... I'm still laughing at Zach from the other night, when we spotted a genuinely hot girl, at least a 7, waiting to get into a locked apartment building. Zach ran over to open the door for that hot girl, doing everything short of sweeping a fedora off his head, bowing, and saying, "After you, m'lady." He asked if she needed to get in, and began hustling over to let her in, like a good beta, but I said that she must be waiting for her boyfriend. She said she was, and I said something about her shirt, which had a logo on it relating to a sport I've played. Zach held back his beta tendencies enough not to let her in immediately. The girl and I had some back and forth on her sweatshirt, and I asked if her boyfriend was a guy I know (no), and then we left, cause it wasn't going anywhere, and I saw a guy, maybe the boyfriend, on the way to let her in.

Zach asked questions about what he’d seen me doing, and I explained why being an outright asshole is bad, but being a niceguy is bad too. I'm not going to gratuitously shut the door on people and if there is someone behind me, or in front of me, I hold the door open like a normal person with basic courtesy. We're stuck on this planet together and we should try to help one another out, in reasonable ways. It's simultaneously important for a guy to protect his value, particularly from women who are used to getting stuff out of guys and using guys like doormats. Zach has doormat tendencies. Opportunities present themselves and he throws them away.

I told Zach that I didn't want to creep the hot girl out, so I kept a reasonable distance between me and her, but she was there and ripe for opening, so I wanted to talk to her a little while she was available. The boyfriend opener told us she had a boyfriend, but she could've said she was waiting for a friend, which would've told us something else, and if the friend had showed up, we could have met her, too. Because the girl was visiting the building, I could wind up seeing whoever lives in the building repeatedly. Maybe the hot girl's friend is also hot, maybe the friend has hot friends.

Zach wanted to let the hot girl away, and I wanted to see if she's available. We are not the same. But he is learning. I hope he ultimately surpasses the master. I've denigrated my cold-approach skills on this blog, but I've also forgotten how poor the average frustrated chump's (AFC's) cold approach skills are. AFC... now there is an old, old term. Compared to top pickup guys, I don't think I'm great, but compared to AFCs, I've internalized a lot of lessons that I now apply automatically.

You can see how the effort to talk to girls works, in that it is useful to always be expanding your network. It is good to think about the network. If a man is opening a lot of girls anyway, some of them might slot into his network, even if they aren't open to opening their legs right away. It's bad to be a simp, or a "Friendzone cuck", for women, which is how most guys deal with female "friends", but it's also useful to have peripheral female "friends" who might fill out a party or a dinner, or who might have other friends when you run into the girl while you're out. You are going out, right? The pussy isn't going to come to you while you sit at home alone. You need to go hunt. Sitting at home watching TV or playing video games isn't going to help. Zach is learning the art of getting out and talking to girls. It's a slow process, and he needs to work on his nutrition and fitness as well, but he's making progress. Are you? What progress have you made in the last week?

Zach made an error in that he didn't know how to cultivate loose female "friends" while he was in his relationship, with the knowledge that those chicks would be the first to hit up in the event of a breakup. He let himself get fat, and fat guys are repulsive to hot chicks... women are actually much more brutal about male looks than men are about female looks: the average man finds the average woman attractive, while the average woman finds the average man to be a sexual zero. Zach ate far too much white rice, flour products, tofu, and other highly processed food, and he ate far too little real food suitable and sustaining for humans. Because he didn't have a hot-chick backup roster, he is starting from scratch. He is trying to reach Mars from the gravity well that is Earth, instead of starting in low-Earth or geosynchronous orbit. But Zach ran into Uncle Red Quest at the right time, for him and for me. Soon, I won’t have the time to instruct the Zachs of the world.

Zach did some things right... although he seemed to have some feminist beta tendencies, he didn't let those utterly rule him, and he could sense cracks in the feminist bullshit he'd been fed in school. He recognized that he took a soft major and thus wasn't making the money he should, because hard technical majors impart real skills while soft majors are verbal masturbation. He took the easy way in college and is paying for it now. He is suffering today for his earlier weakness. Choose a girl major, and make girl money after college.

Not only did he take the easy way in college, but Zach says that in high school he might have been more fun and have cared less in college. Zach thinks college taught him a set of dysfunctional manners, the kind of dysfunctional manners we might call "feminism" or "wokeness." I don't know why he absorbed these things but I guess he marinated in them long enough. I think the answer is simpler: he learned to be a b*tch. And now I'm teaching him how not to be a b*tch, and how to be a man. But he's been a b*tch for so long that he's confused at the new feelings he's awakening.

Zach is surprised that, when I talked about lessons I applied to some specific chicks, I also showed him nude photos of those chicks. Cause who cares? It's all in the game. Evidence matters, to a degree. Does he want to f**k girls that hot? Then he's gotta improve his game and his life. I may be out of the game right now but I was in it for  a long time. Women have spent the entirety of their evolutionary existence learning how to filter fit men from unfit men. A man who wants to f**k a lot must learn to unlock the female mind and body (for a man, attraction to a woman is often instantaneous and physical, but for most women, it is about the mind and the body). To most men, women remain a mystery. Most men don't read and live in a life of ignorance. They are soft in the ways that count.

If I sound harsh, it's because life is harsh, and women are harsh. Women have been judging men carefully for many, many generations, and they are very good at it. Come up deficient and your genes won't get into the next generation, or they only will via a low-value chick. Women are much harsher than I will ever be. I can only sound harsh because I had some of Zach's tendencies when I was younger... not all of them, and not as badly, but of the same type and to a lesser degree. I recognize the horrifying cost of weak and inept fathers, beta-ness, and failing at one of life's most important tasks (women).

Zach never learned how to talk to people or what makes girls tick. Every girl is a puzzle, and while some can be solved quickly, most can't be, but not for lack of trying. The solution is always taking off her panties, or pulling them to the side, and getting inside her. The girls who can be solved in polynomial time are single, or soon-to-be-single, or susceptible to game, or like your vibe/type, etc. The girls who can't be solved in polynomial time, who are indeterminate in the ability to get inside them, are in happy relationships, don't like your game, don't like your vibe/type, etc. Improving your game will move more girls from category 2 into category 1, but most girl puzzles will not be solved by you, and that's all right. There are well-known puzzle solving skills, like there are well-known polynomial time algorithms, and I have some of those skills. Zach has few of them. Now he's learning some from me, but he's also learning some from the game bros who've gone before me. I'm not the first man to want pussy, or to figure out how to get it, and I won't be the last.

Zach has a long way to go. I think he can get there, but he’s starting from a big deficit. I like Zach and want him to succeed, although rereading this makes me sound like I don’t.

Can he learn not to be a social r^tard? I don't know. We'll see. I learned, and it was a struggle. A worthwhile struggle but a struggle.

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