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Perhaps the next time you see Zach, you can let him know he's got a few fans and potential future wingmen rooting for him around the world...

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I would guess Zach's probability for successful transformation depends on the strength of his desire to change from beta to alpha.

With the prevailing social forces influencing today's young guys to be so feminine or neutral, averse to masculinity,

a guy like Zach is less likely to feel that being a soy boy is intolerable; less likely to be determined to cultivate his masculinity.

Unfortunately, our culture encourages us to give high priority to having everything comfortable & pleasant at all times.

Also, it seems that many people who are eating junk and not exercising don't realize

that they could find ways to eat well and stay fit which would not make them miserable.

They presume that the price is too high, when really it doesn't have to be, if they found ways which fit their preferences.

Friends of mine who don't exercise seem to have narrow & rigid preconceptions of their options for how to get & stay fit.

They did some weight-lifting in their teen years, didn't much enjoy it, and they don't realize that was just one way to do it --

-- and there are so many different ways a guy can lift weights beneficially. There are so many variables which can make it more agreeable in the moment.

And/or they are in the mental trap of assuming 'all or nothing' -- either you do 90 minutes in a gym 3 times a week, or nothing.

They don't realize if you do just 5 minutes a day at home, you're way better off than if you do nothing at all --

-- and the difference between 5 minutes vs zero minutes daily is much bigger than the difference between a daily 5 minutes versus 90 min. 3 X weekly.

I hope Zach continues making good progress.

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I can't tell if he's going to make it. He doesn't seem as determined as I think he should be, but he is making progress... so I can't tell whether that progress is going to continue. I'd guess he'll dabble until he gets a "good enough" girlfriend, cause that is the typical path of the guy who is a little interested in game but also not determined and obsessed.

I'm probably the atypical weirdo because in my life, any time I've not the sex life I've wanted, I've gone deep on doing everything I can to get there. Most people aren't like that.

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I relate to this... anytime I'm not with physical abundance, I find myself taking more action to change that fact, which keeps me improving in game.

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