Seems like many of us struggle with the fact that achieving long-term goals
requires sacrificing many options. First we must recognize & accept this fact.
We must ask ourselves 'Would I rather have X, or Z? Because I can't have both.'
For me, a big lesson I had to learn was how important it is to make the daily process at least tolerable enough that I can consistently put in enough work to have a chance to achieve the goal within a reasonable period of time. Making it tolerable enough requires (among other choices) choosing to perceive the daily experience of it in a way which makes it intrinsically rewarding enough to keep doing it without any guarantee that your investment of time & effort will eventually bring you the ultimate rewards you hope to get.
We might ask why so many people have unrealistic (and self-defeating) expectations.
So many great points. Thought-provoking.
Seems like many of us struggle with the fact that achieving long-term goals
requires sacrificing many options. First we must recognize & accept this fact.
We must ask ourselves 'Would I rather have X, or Z? Because I can't have both.'
For me, a big lesson I had to learn was how important it is to make the daily process at least tolerable enough that I can consistently put in enough work to have a chance to achieve the goal within a reasonable period of time. Making it tolerable enough requires (among other choices) choosing to perceive the daily experience of it in a way which makes it intrinsically rewarding enough to keep doing it without any guarantee that your investment of time & effort will eventually bring you the ultimate rewards you hope to get.
We might ask why so many people have unrealistic (and self-defeating) expectations.
Who conditioned their thinking this way, and why?