What's with guys who are with considerably uglier women? [FR?]
A report from an adult party
(2018)
Like I said, Bike Girl and I went to a friend's sex party last night, and it was fantastic. I noticed three guys in pretty good shape escorting women considerably fatter and uglier than ones those guys should've been with. I felt pity but also curiosity… one severely mismatched couple is normal. Three, all with relatively more attractive men, is weird. Whenever you see a guy with a fat chick, think to yourself, "this is why game matters."
One of the fat chicks was seriously interested in us, and while f**king her probably would've been better than a sea anemone, I wasn't interested.
When I'm around fat chicks I have a habit of becoming a gym bore who discusses squat mechanics in detail. That and high-protein diets. Probably I should be subtler, but………. f**k it.
Three solidly hot girls were there: Bike Girl and two others. One was a stunner in her 20s, a blonde high 8, and her and her new boyfriend are just getting into the scene. After round one I brought out some massage oil to use on Bike Girl. I caught the other couple's eyes and waved them over, then offered supposed massage tips. The other guy and I spent time massaging the girls we brought, then we switched girls, and the massages acted as foreplay and led smoothly into f**king.
Overall it was a great experience, although Bike Girl expressed reservations on the way home because she says she doesn't like f**king strangers. I reassured her that what we'd done was fun, natural, and okay. That is a component of leading and to be expected among many girls, but especially among girls who are having sexual novelty they may not be totally equipped to mentally handle.
Most girls don't know what they want and are psychologically equipped to tell stories about their sexual experiences that deny their own agency. Chicks rely on guys to calibrate their internal psychological levels. If you aren't strong enough to do that you're going to have a lot of wayward unhappy girls in your life. Tell a girl the thing is okay and prosocial and she will believe you. This is what I think many guys are referencing when they talk about e.g. “frame.”
I think what happened doesn't even qualify as "game" so much “right place, right time, right energy” and letting a thing happen. The other couple wanted what they wanted and got it. Most couples aren't good at leading either, so someone has to be willing to put themselves out there and that someone turned out to be me.
I have a longer post about how chicks deny their own sexual agency coming up.
Happy New Year! If you're a guy in a stagnant relationship with a fat chick, this is the time to make new plans. If you're a fat guy yourself, this is the year to quit sugar and hit the gym. It's possible to use game to overcome body deficiencies but boy is it hard.
Most people are too lazy to make changes, which is why I have the experiences I've had and most guys don't have those experiences.
Regarding "guys in pretty good shape escorting women considerably fatter and uglier"...
I think it is important to keep in mind that what makes men attractive to women is not the same as what makes women attractive to men.
For a female, her attractiveness to men is almost 100% defined by her face and body...
But what makes a man attractive to women is different.
Sure, face and body matters for men, too - but less so than most men think.
Other aspects can be just as important from a female perspective - like a man's confidence, resources, contacts, skills, logistics, etc.
A man can build up an amazing body in the gym - but still be a fiasco with women.
Unfortunately, because most people are egocentric they do not consider that what's important to others may be different from what is important to themselves.
(Which, by the way, might just explain all of the world's violent, intractable conflicts.)
Hence, when guys in pretty good shape are escorting women considerably fatter and uglier, it probably just means they are too much focused on one area that matters for dating... while failing to understand or appreciate the other areas that also matter. Which all comes down to negligence and a lack of interest in how the world actually works. Perhaps they are just getting what they deserve?