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Mar 20Liked by the red quest

I like this blog even though I am a married guy with no interest in sleeping around. Lots of good general advice about how to be a better man, even if you’re not into pickup.

I am acquaintances with a guy who is a pro athlete making upwards of $5 million a year. He is married and schlepping his kids to sports practice just like the rest of us. I doubt he is sleeping around. Why? To be that successful requires a lot of hard work and focus. I think he is also smart enough to realize that longer term he will be better off having invested his energy in his family, even if that doesn’t always seem like the most fun thing in the moment.

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THE UPSHOT does tend to focus on salacious stories.

He may also be one way when he's at home, another way when he's on the road...

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Mar 19Liked by the red quest

Wow. Some great insights here..!

"The nerds who study seduction arts often need help living in the moment"... Yeah, been there, done that. Got some good help. Still working on it!

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I shoot to say things that are 1. true and also 2. not super common.

The world is drowning in generic b*llshit. I want to do something different.

The world is also drowning in generic men, or so women tell me.

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Apr 18·edited Apr 18Liked by the red quest

It is drowning in generic men. You're not the only one whom women tell that. And I am an example that some women will prefer non-generic loser man to a generic... generic man

Had to check dictionary for insouciance, and I'm glad I could, coz that's one of the words I could use to describe myself when I'm in at least mediocre point in my life (i.e. not extremely depressed). It's not completely natural for me, but it's above average.

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