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Basically correct.

Learn to cold approach, but also learn to accept rejection gracefully.

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Jul 16, 2023Liked by the red quest

1944: Some of World War II's bravest young soldiers take the fight to the enemy. Thousands of paratroopers died during their drop behind enemy lines, having been shot out of the sky by enemy fire or weighed down in flooded marshlands. Whether demolition experts, rangers trained to scale the cliffs of Normandy, bulldozer operators ready to create new roads, or just infantrymen primed to establish positions, the men all shared a strong sense of determination - to take Europe back from the nazis.

2024: Nobody has the courage to say "hi" to the girls.

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There is a lot of missing perspective.

And a lot of missing can-do attitude.

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Those soldiers all shared something, like you said. Men not/ wanting to approach women don't share anything, not in the sense of the words as for ww2

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Yeah... Unless, of course, you join a lair of seducers and go "hunting" together. I did.

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Mar 26Liked by the red quest

This is the wisdom the younger guys need etched in their mind, body and soul. Great fucking shit man!! 👌🏼👌🏼

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Feb 19·edited Feb 19

Cold approaching is a very recent phenomenon. Maybe 100 years in the West, probably only became widespread in your grandparents generations. We are not evolved for this. For most of history and in most societies, families just set up the boy and the girl. Even Genghis Khan had basically what you would call, an arranged marriage. Or when he finally gained enough power, he would just take the women he wanted as wives or concubines. No chance for women to say "no" in either situation unlike cold approaching today. Think dating apps is fake and that we humans aren't evolved for it. Cold approaching is just as fake and we are not evolved for it. It may or may not work(and the results may or may not justify the means), buts it not any more genuine than Tinder.

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"I don’t see how people can call flirting risky compared to fighting in wars or lots of other things, but I guess maybe we are a nation of pussies." Very nice, very nice! Heartiste said to make her uncomfortable on the approach so dont worry about the man being uncomforable.

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Deliberately making her uncomfortable is bad; you want her to be comfortable, if possible, though it often won't be possible cause she'll be nervous about a strange man chatting with her.

Heartiste's comment, if that is what he said, is too much bravado, and not real enough.

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