A guest post, and it has a fresh report on what women who date women can teach us. I have a bunch of friends who are lesbians—like, real lesbians, not the ones you see on Pornhub. It’s fascinating to hear about their sex lives and how they navigate the sexual landscape. However, things get really interesting when bisexual women date, or attempt to date, other bisexual women.
Not sure why this article popped into my inbox as if it was new, but over the past couple days I’ve seen over my dates again and again that they wait for the masculine dominance to tell them what to do and when. The last girl I was with “we” got naked, which was a good sign to her that we had chemistry and, simultaneously, I would respect her bounds (feelings in any particular time frame).
And the previous day, a girl online hit me up from nowhere saying “dominate me”, but in person, the conversation was platonic and mostly non-sexual (I purposely kept it so because she was cute enough I wanted to see her again, and I didn’t want her to “feel” like I was a one-time-hookup guy), until I broke the ice and escalated things accordingly (I err on the side of going to slow/being a tease and tell girls that, which seems to make them anticipate all the more).
"that they wait for the masculine dominance to tell them what to do and when"
I think too many guys get bamboozled by the feminist education system into thinking women act and behave like men, when in fact women don't behave that way. Game is the education in dating many men need (but many reject, too).
"I err on the side of going to slow/being a tease and tell girls that, which seems to make them anticipate all the more"
IME this hasn't been as successful for me, cause cute girls are bombarded with unbelievable amounts of male attention... erring on the side of shooting for escalation has seemed to work better. But you have to decide these things for yourself. Some guys report success w/ the two-date model, https://theredquest.substack.com/p/date-structure-and-arc-how-to-plan-and-execute-dates
Re "the feminist education system": I still remember being very angry because for years the media had presented me with a totally faulty model of how to escalate with women ("tell her how you really feel"), which had led me to disaster (but no play) time and time again. When the pickup community formed online circa 2000 and I learned how escalation really works, I was shocked how much it opposed everything I'd been "taught". And shocked by how badly the movies and TV lied about how people find sex partners.
I don't think I would have ever figured out escalation without the pickup boards. I would probably have died a virgin. Escalation just seems so counterintuitive if you've been raised on lies.
Not sure why this article popped into my inbox as if it was new, but over the past couple days I’ve seen over my dates again and again that they wait for the masculine dominance to tell them what to do and when. The last girl I was with “we” got naked, which was a good sign to her that we had chemistry and, simultaneously, I would respect her bounds (feelings in any particular time frame).
And the previous day, a girl online hit me up from nowhere saying “dominate me”, but in person, the conversation was platonic and mostly non-sexual (I purposely kept it so because she was cute enough I wanted to see her again, and I didn’t want her to “feel” like I was a one-time-hookup guy), until I broke the ice and escalated things accordingly (I err on the side of going to slow/being a tease and tell girls that, which seems to make them anticipate all the more).
"that they wait for the masculine dominance to tell them what to do and when"
I think too many guys get bamboozled by the feminist education system into thinking women act and behave like men, when in fact women don't behave that way. Game is the education in dating many men need (but many reject, too).
"I err on the side of going to slow/being a tease and tell girls that, which seems to make them anticipate all the more"
IME this hasn't been as successful for me, cause cute girls are bombarded with unbelievable amounts of male attention... erring on the side of shooting for escalation has seemed to work better. But you have to decide these things for yourself. Some guys report success w/ the two-date model, https://theredquest.substack.com/p/date-structure-and-arc-how-to-plan-and-execute-dates
Re "the feminist education system": I still remember being very angry because for years the media had presented me with a totally faulty model of how to escalate with women ("tell her how you really feel"), which had led me to disaster (but no play) time and time again. When the pickup community formed online circa 2000 and I learned how escalation really works, I was shocked how much it opposed everything I'd been "taught". And shocked by how badly the movies and TV lied about how people find sex partners.
I don't think I would have ever figured out escalation without the pickup boards. I would probably have died a virgin. Escalation just seems so counterintuitive if you've been raised on lies.
> for years the media had presented me with a totally faulty model of how to escalate with women
I had some of this problem as well
In writing about what pickup and sex is really like we are telling the truth and there is intrinsic value in that
https://theredquest.substack.com/p/write-your-player-blog-its-an-advertisement-but-not-in-the-way-you-think