"Picking up girls" skills and "long-term relationships" skills
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I've said this in some different places but not headlined with it: "Picking up girls" skills and "long-term relationships" skills overlap, but there's a lot of non-overlap too. For picking up chicks, approach anxiety, initial comments, flirting skills, sheer physicality, fashion sense, logistics, dealing with shit tests, etc. are paramount. Guys should practice and build up those skills. For long-term relationships, emotional compatibility, lifestyle, money/money philosophy, ability to maintain sexual heat, long-term life goals, etc. are much more important. Guys can be good at both but there's a lot of distinction between the two and if you specialize in being a player you will likely hone the early skills and forget the later ones even exist.
"Picking up girls" skills and "long-term relationships" skills
"Picking up girls" skills and "long-term…
"Picking up girls" skills and "long-term relationships" skills
I've said this in some different places but not headlined with it: "Picking up girls" skills and "long-term relationships" skills overlap, but there's a lot of non-overlap too. For picking up chicks, approach anxiety, initial comments, flirting skills, sheer physicality, fashion sense, logistics, dealing with shit tests, etc. are paramount. Guys should practice and build up those skills. For long-term relationships, emotional compatibility, lifestyle, money/money philosophy, ability to maintain sexual heat, long-term life goals, etc. are much more important. Guys can be good at both but there's a lot of distinction between the two and if you specialize in being a player you will likely hone the early skills and forget the later ones even exist.