I think a big part of the problem is weak men. Girls are always testing, and will say almost anything to get some reaction or attention. These days, men are not dealing with it well at all.
There was a time when a girl who would try to talk nonsense would just be shut down. She would be explained, in no uncertain terms, what the world is really like. But these days so many men are tip-toeing around, trying not to offend anyone, hoping to get laid somehow by agreeing with things girls say. The result is that nonsense is not opposed. Random silly ideas are allowed to fester, allowed to spread. Just look at what is happening at some universities.
Young women are malleable and will generally adapt to a man's outlook and thinking... but it takes some firmness and strength in the man. When there are no strong men, all bets are off.
This is fine if your trying to get laid, but I would reconsider if your thinking of getting married and raising a family with someone.
Politics can represent some big differences in values that you have to sort out when you build a live together. For instance, I watched a lot of friends go insane during Covid because of politics. My best friend growing up is still masking his kid in public because his liberal wife demands it, and she didn’t strike me as crazy or political before this. Just one day boom. Lot of examples like this.
Wife has crazy political opinions? Maybe you ignore her, but she will be teaching that stuff to your kids and then it will bother you. This can come up more then you think.
Some people give up their luxury beliefs when they have kids, but some don’t, and it’s a spectrum.
Maybe if this were the 1990s things would be different, but I’ve seen a lot of stress in marriages with different political opinions because they have come to mean very different views of how to live life. If I were giving someone advice today it would be to weight politics as a reasonably important factor so far as it reflects underlying values which will be important to building a life together.
Great points. For a while (in recent years) it seemed like political differences could doom the possibilities between some men and some women (maybe more so on dating apps than IRL?). But the subject may never come up between the two people who get together. Also, if you avoid the topic, many people may just assume you share their political views (if they respond well to you in general).
I think a big part of the problem is weak men. Girls are always testing, and will say almost anything to get some reaction or attention. These days, men are not dealing with it well at all.
There was a time when a girl who would try to talk nonsense would just be shut down. She would be explained, in no uncertain terms, what the world is really like. But these days so many men are tip-toeing around, trying not to offend anyone, hoping to get laid somehow by agreeing with things girls say. The result is that nonsense is not opposed. Random silly ideas are allowed to fester, allowed to spread. Just look at what is happening at some universities.
Young women are malleable and will generally adapt to a man's outlook and thinking... but it takes some firmness and strength in the man. When there are no strong men, all bets are off.
This is fine if your trying to get laid, but I would reconsider if your thinking of getting married and raising a family with someone.
Politics can represent some big differences in values that you have to sort out when you build a live together. For instance, I watched a lot of friends go insane during Covid because of politics. My best friend growing up is still masking his kid in public because his liberal wife demands it, and she didn’t strike me as crazy or political before this. Just one day boom. Lot of examples like this.
Wife has crazy political opinions? Maybe you ignore her, but she will be teaching that stuff to your kids and then it will bother you. This can come up more then you think.
Some people give up their luxury beliefs when they have kids, but some don’t, and it’s a spectrum.
Maybe if this were the 1990s things would be different, but I’ve seen a lot of stress in marriages with different political opinions because they have come to mean very different views of how to live life. If I were giving someone advice today it would be to weight politics as a reasonably important factor so far as it reflects underlying values which will be important to building a life together.
His wife is nuts and if it's not this it'd be something else.
I don't think national political views reflect underlying values hardly at all, see https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/73535/the-righteous-mind-by-jonathan-haidt/
Great points. For a while (in recent years) it seemed like political differences could doom the possibilities between some men and some women (maybe more so on dating apps than IRL?). But the subject may never come up between the two people who get together. Also, if you avoid the topic, many people may just assume you share their political views (if they respond well to you in general).
I don't think this is a big problem among non-Internet people, for the most part...