Boredom = death

What are you doing that's different and non-standard?

Boredom = death, when it comes to chicks that is. This chick is f**king some guy who is nice but boring, "We had sex. He’s always very tender. It’s always slow and nice. I can come easily, so I always orgasm, but I can’t say it’s from his moves, which are pretty green." Plus, he's weak, if you translate from chick-speak, "He’s just so kind and thoughtful. Which brings me to my one hesitation about Ben … Sometimes I worry I’m not excited enough by him."

This guy needs to both up his game and find a chick with slightly lower SMV. The woman just broke up with a doctor she names Drew, "When Drew and I were together, we would go away most weekends. I was always dying to be with him. Like, panting for him. With Ben, it couldn’t be more opposite. I feel Zen. I wouldn’t call it 'blah'; it’s more like calm." She knows her SMV is at risk from aging, "He was a resident, and she was one of the nurses. This happened a year ago, when I turned 30. It killed me. It still kills me. Sometimes at work I look at his Instagram page and try to analyze it. Is he with the nurse?", but she doesn't act that way. Probably his nurse is a little younger and also more economically functional.

The chick in the story is probably not a good earner, "Work was tedious. I had to present a bunch of new products to the owner of the shop, who is nice but intense. She had a lot of questions. I was not my best self. Get me home to bed!", and "Drew" knows it. Does he want to be with a shopgirl or with a girl who can earn some money? At some point the sex will cool a bit and then what?

I have said this in various places, but when it comes to long-term relationships, the chick's qualities aside from "hot" and "willing" become important. Seduction advice focuses on the short term, but for longer term relationships a woman's qualities outside her rack, her backside, and her oral skills gain importance. The chick in the story doesn't seem like she has much of anything that contributes to the household apart from her p***y. That's fine for short-term, but for a lot of guys p***y is, if, not a commodity, then available, and character, earning, cooking, etc. are not. Guys look for "full package," and "Drew" was either bored of her, or looking at a more functional woman… or could be both.

It's strange to me that more women are not working to move themselves out of the "commodity p***y" market and into the "special girl" market. The woman in the story is not doing that, and she's suffering because of it. Feminism has set up a highly competitive sexual marketplace, and many women have not properly internalized this fact. They have a lot of power for short-term things when they’re young and hot, but turning short-term things into something meaningful over the long term is important for most women.

Lesson for guys is simple, don't be f**king boring, and if you are, a lot of chicks who are on the younger and hotter side of things will next you.

I have some non-mainstream methods of not being boring.