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>> and ideally the chick will say "yellow" if you get her to that end state

Critically, this means to the guys wanting to try bdsm that they should learn to incorporate “red”, “yellow”, and “green” lights (safe words) into their play with a girl. I hadn’t realized that explicitly and had just been cruising along without them until around a month ago.

How/at what point in the interaction do you have the “safe word” talk with a girl, to make sure it isn’t uncalibrated BUT isn’t too late (already in the middle of choking her, for instance)?

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