You are not a special and unique sunflower: Jung and game

I tweeted last week, "At least half a dozen guys have messaged me to say they think they know a chick from one of my stories." Ms. Slav, most often... since I've written most often about her. The repeated identifications are a sign, a sign that patterns in human behavior are universal. We are less unique than we think.

What is happening to me... is happening to guys and chicks in every city. It's happening all around you, you just don't know it, or realize it. I didn't know about this whole sex club, open relationship world existed until the chick I call #1 introduced me. Now I realize that it's organized, like the vast mycelium networks beneath a small mushroom patch, and the people in it have to be organized if they're going to keep it going on a regular basis. The number of people involved is far, far greater than I ever would have realized. More women are open to it than young Red Quest would have guessed. Many women are open to this pattern... though almost all want primary partners, too.

To our parents... we are irreplaceable. And if our parents are any good, they are irreplaceable to us. But the parent/child relationship has many patterns. Rapidly, as you move away from that, we are more and more replaceable, and more like other people. Ideally, children are the same to their parents... they are a pattern, yes, but also unique and irreplaceable.

Game is about learning the patterns... if there were no patterns, it'd be no good. There are patterns to what attract men. There are patterns (more complicated ones) to what attract women.

I am more similar to other guys like me than I want to think. You are probably more similar to other guys than you want to admit.

Because the patterns are universal, I see patterns in other people and they see them in me. Baller psychologist Carl Jung argues that each of us taps into a universal unconscious that shapes us... maybe that is also why so many people believe in reincarnation/access to past lives... because that is the universal pattern reaching into them. The book I have been talking about lately, KING WARRIOR MAGICIAN LOVER: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine, is heavily influenced by Jung. It sets up types of guys. You should read it to get your head straight, and to figure out which type you are most... I am most MAGICIAN, I'm sure regular readers will not be surprised to discover. This has good aspects and bad aspects... good or bad I'm kind of stuck with them... I will probably never truly be a KING or WARRIOR guy, regardless of my own desires. To change fundamental types, at this stage in my game... not easy. Some people are one type and want to be another, forever being at war with themselves.

The interesting thing to me is that no guy, from what I have seen, has written comprehensively about the patterns involved in game (as elucidated by Krauser, etc.) AND the patterns involved in sex clubs. A few people have written about one or the other, but not both.

That's the one uncommon thing about me. I have seen the patterns and reported back on them. Guys have been seeing the patterns in game for a while... Nash wrote about a book from the '70s that isn't so different from what modern gamers do. The old newsgroup alt.seduction spawned the SoSuave forum, and those two things energized Neil Strauss and Mystery. Strauss and Mystery seeded the London Daygame guys. All of those sources have percolated in my own mind, and they have influenced the book I put out.

Smartphones are changing some tactics but the overall strategy is the same. Chicks are still chicks and want to get f**ked by cool guys, and they want adventure to spice up their boring lives. Jung gets it... he understands that we are patterns, and, if we are to have a chance at breaking the pattern, we have to see it first. Most guys never get the sex lives they want because they have bad value or they never get the patterns down. We need to read books so we can find the patterns hidden from us in our regular lives. Many men are frustrated by the game (that is the cause of sites like PUAhate and SLUThate) because they think they can never engage the methods that make guys successful, or the reality of sexual competition contravenes their early programming... frequently religious and sometimes feminist.

Knowing you are second-rate, sexually... it must be hard. Now we have porno and game blogs that CONFIRM you are a second or third rate guy. How do you respond? Some guys up their game. Some guys fall into depression. Some guys engage in denial, hate, and anger. Some guys spend their lives hunting for the girl who is the exception... there are girls who are exceptions... they are just super rare. If you have the skills to get girls in the centre of the distribution, you likely have the skills to get the rare girls, but not the other way around.

I think that's the psychology behind haters and male feminists... the ones who see the pattern but can't learn how to use the pattern. Guys who succeed learn the seduction process, through experience or synthetically through the game. Our processes are pretty similar. We think we are special, but we are wrong. Other guys think they know the chicks I have discussed... actually, they are seeing archetypes of those chicks, and that's it.

Trippy, right? At the top of the game, the game starts to sound like hippie bullshit again. At the bottom of the game, the game is a struggle to amass sufficient value to attract decent chicks. It's very dog-eat-dog.

When we are kids we think we are special. Some people never get past that notion. The rest of us learn that we have to make ourselves special.

When you read a book like WARRIOR KING MAGICIAN LOVER you find out that you are less special than you had thought... but you also learn how to optimize your strengths and compensate for your weaknesses. I have many weaknesses... but I have probably not emphasized them in the writing here. Maybe they can be guessed.

It's funny to me, being the repository for other people's projections and experiences.

One of the big things many guys have to learn, or unlearn, is that women love f**king... but they are compelled by their psychologies to conceal that somewhat, and they are told by the society they grow up in to conceal their love. So a lot of guys remain ignorant about female nature for a long time... some guys forever... thus movies like THE MATRIX resonating. Learning the truth, recognizing your own inadequacy in some domains... it can be very painful. For guys who are soft, who have never competed in sports or lifted in the gym, it can be really hard. For guys who have spent their lives optimizing the wrong thing, thinking that women will be attracted to well-paid, boring IT workers... it can be brutal and shattering.

There is no easy way, there is only the hard way. Particularly for men.