What I do when she sends nudes

Ask her on a date. Or send her erotic photos of my own

(2018)

Don’t simp.

This is a pretty new problem, because way back in the day guys who wanted nudes had to shoot them on film cameras and have a method to develop the film. Then digital came along and guys who wanted nudes still had to shoot them themselves, usually with an early DSLR like the first Canon Rebel, or with a point & shoot. Now smartphones are ubiquitous and chicks sometimes send nudes or partial nudes of their own volition and without prompting.

Requesting nudes from women, before you’ve slept with them, is usually a demonstration of lower value and thus should be avoided… Want nudes? Get a camera and shoot them yourself after you've slept with her.

But when she sends you unsolicited nudes, what do you do? I think a lot of chicks are fishing for over-reaction from the guy, and guys who over-react are failing the chick’s test. I'm still not 100% sure, but when I first encountered this problem in the wild I’d be laconic, "Pretty," or "cool" or a similar one-word answer, and then asking her on a date. That will show whether she’s serious. It’s also possible, probably not ideal, to return an erotic but not explicit pic of me with another chick. A front view of the chick, with me behind her, covering her nipples with my hands. A side view of me going down on a chick. That kind of thing, if she’s the right kind of chick.

Chicks will go one of two ways: some will be turned on and may accelerate the meeting or next meeting, and some will start asking questions about the other girl, and I'll go for the date again, "Let's discuss in person and meet at this bar and this time."

The more sexually forward the chick is, the better this works, I think. Chicks who want monogamy, I think this works worse on. It can be a higher risk move than ignoring or saying very little to the chick. A little bit like my Snapchat in game move. It's a perfect move with chicks who are already into non-monogamy and group sex.

I prefer the “ask her out” strategy, but there are other possibilities… if I sent an erotic pic, I don't include faces, but it's pretty clear that the pics I send are from me. This is a light form of attempting to make the other girl jealous or showing a hard-to-fake signal that other chicks desire me. Chicks most want guys other chicks want, but they also want to monopolize a high-status guy, and those two desires fight within them. I said in "Evolutionary biology underlies game" that most chicks have no idea what they want and are their desires are often incoherent.  Implicitly saying, "If you don't get on this ride, another girl is going to, soon," makes her want to get on the ride.

Or... it will make her a firm no, forever. That is a blessing because it means you can direct your attention to live leads.

I usually get the pics of me through screen grabs from sex tapes. VLC has a screen grab feature that will export the exact frame. Today, 4K video is widely available and that makes getting the right pic easy.

There also seems to be an uptick in the number of chicks who send nudes as a form of teasing and attention-getting but who have no desire to meet up or have real life wetsex. Unless you ask her out, it's hard to separate out the chicks who tease-but-want-it from the chicks who just want attention. If a chick won't meet or won't come home with me I stop contacting her or responding to her messages, and that will usually shake out the flakes from the chicks who want it. Anything a chick says in response to “let’s meet at such-and-such bar at such-and-such time” that isn’t a yes is a no.

Today, I see nudes as being in practice part of one's romantic portfolio, the same way you should have a professional portfolio demonstrating your work products. Be prepared and good things will come. I hadn't explicitly realized that I'm doing this kind of romantic preparation till earlier this week, but once I did I also realized that most guys are probably doing this sort of thing on the fly, when they should be doing it as part of a larger strategy. Unless they're already swimming in quim, in which case they don't need strategy.