Value & idiots

You have to build value AND deliver value

Another day, another great post from Nash, on "cool guy" game versus "real value" and how there are no (or few, in my view) hacks in game. I'm not going to talk about all the ways it's right, because you can read it for yourself. I would qualify a few things.

Nash's basic thesis is correct: the vast majority of guys need to focus on building value. If they don't, they'll likely fail, or at the very least not achieve anywhere near the level they should. Game is about building value and then learning to deliver that value.

I love this community, but I would also like to help clean it up… brush some of the intellectual garbage off our streets.

That's a fantastic, noble sentiment, but I don't think it's going to happen, because a lot of men are trapped at a low level of development. It's not going to happen because lots of people want something for nothing. If they didn't, we wouldn't have adjustable rate mortgages, credit cards that aren't paid off monthly, car loans that people can't afford, pyramid schemes, lotteries, boiler room operations, astrology, and the innumerable other parasites out there that exist because people are stupid and want something for nothing. There will always be a market for "this one weird trick to help you pick up girls" or "top ten things REAL ALPHAS do and you should too." Let's fantasize about a trick instead of learning that the only sustainable trick is hard f**king work (for most guys).

It's also hard to clean up the community because most people are just stupid, or cognitively deficient, or whatever you want to call it.

She knows me very well, and can actually see all my real value (I used to be her boss, she has seen me “kill people” in business, she has seen my work drive real results in terms of big dollars, she has seen other girls chase me, she has seen my house, my art, all of it… this is real VALUE).

Genuinely stupid people generally can't accomplish that. Stupid people (and even people of average intelligence) can't write two- or three-thousand word, complex, Nash-level posts on the finer aspects of game.

Stupid people can tweet, post one-liners to Reddit, and leave stupid comments that miss the point. Stupid people aren't going to read or comprehend two thousand words. They're going to skip to YouTube videos. The people consuming garbage aren't going to "get" Nash because they don't have the attention span to read and understand him.

Even you, right now, probably doesn't have the attention span. I know because I've written a lot about books. Without having done a lot of reading, I wouldn't be able to write this blog. Most book mentions include an Amazon referral tag.

Out of curiosity, I check out how many guys buy the book.

Krauser has written about "no-hopers" in his books. There are more no-hopers out there. In my personal life, I've run into many of them, of both genders. "Why doesn't she like me?" "Why won't Mr. Hot Guy keep me around after sex?" Well, start by quitting sugar, going to the gym, and developing real hobbies. "But that's hard!" "I know."

Without getting into detail, I'll say that I've done some teaching, recruiting, training, and mentoring. The mental capabilities of the average person, let alone the below-average person, are just much lower than the average high-IQ person thinks.

We all lives in bubbles. One cool thing about game is that it gets us out of our bubbles. Somewhat. Unless a guy, like Nash, has a lot of exposure to the general public, he may be underestimating just how weak the average guy really is. The average guy doesn't have the cognitive processing skills to read and comprehend Nash's posts.

I’d argue 90% of the guys that say that… totally give a fuck. They really, really give a fuck. I know I give a fuck… I do. And saying “I give zero fucks” is a way of pretending. It’s completely transparent, and no one is convinced at all. It’s more lame “cool guy game” from guys that aren’t actually cool. And the community pushes this CONSTANTLY.

That's true, but I think sometimes those guys who say "Don't give a fuck" are actually saying, "Strive towards outcome independence, but realize that the average outcome will be failure." It's hard, almost paradoxical, to understand that the median and mode outcomes of game will be zero, while also realizing that it's important to attempt. Attempting to achieve "outcome independence" is another way of saying, "Try not to give a fuck about any particular person."

You should give a fuck, of course, about doing your best and building your value. But you should also realize that if you care deeply about every interaction, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Overwhelming disappointment that may crush you.

Being "chill" and "nonchalant" in the face of shit tests is also good.

It's vital to give a fuck overall while also letting the dead leads go.

It's hard to do. Sometimes it's still a little bit hard for me.

Game is hard because, like many domains of human life, opposites can be simultaneously true. Give a fuck about improvement. Give a fuck about value. Give a fuck about doing the work. Give a fuck about doing the best you can in the moment. Don't give a fuck about the outcome, if possible.

Don't take advice from tweets. 140 or 240 characters is not enough for understanding.