TRP isn't wrong: honest advice for men

Seven principles every man should know.

The Red Pill has taken a lot of shit recently, and it seems to have unfortunately devolved into either black pill guys who genuinely hate women and refuse to make themselves better, or blue pill guys who want to pretend this stuff isn’t real.

It’s real. Today’s dating market is absolutely brutal for most men—however, the reason I always say, “there’s never been a better time to be a player” is because if you get into the top 20% of guys, it’s true. You can have sex with lots of girls once you reach that top level of attraction. It’s still a lot of work, but that’s always been true. Women have never, and will never, hand out sex for free.

Here’s the rub though: it’s very, very difficult to find a woman who is quality and who will be loyal. The simplest reason is they don’t have to be either of these things to get attention from men. Most guys, in the end, want to exit the dating market: they want to find their darling and actually stay with her, whether it’s a long term relationship or marriage. Understand, the Game never ends. She can leave you at any time, and it’s particularly likely to happen when you most need her. The level of struggle and pain most modern women are willing to go through for a man is basically zero, because they know they can just hop on with another guy as soon as shit goes south.

And shit does go south. That’s true for everyone. Life is hard. Bad stuff, entirely out of our control, happens all the time. And we’re going to fuck up on our own some too—no man is without flaws, nor can we execute all of life perfectly. So the message here is quite simple: as men, we have to always do what is in OUR best interest. Because no one will care if you fail, and other than your closest friends, no one will help you. Society certainly won’t care. When she leaves you or cheats, it will be YOUR fault, full stop. Worse, what guarantee do you have that she has any real reason to stay with you long term? If things are bad, she will leave. If things are good, she can divorce you and take half of your wealth.

However, we can have productive and successful lives if we employ the principles of The Red Pill philosophy.

The Seven Core Principles of TRP

1. Your mission is the focus of your life: the business or project you’re building, the hobby you’re passionate about, the book you’re writing, and the content you’re producing. Never let this go, and once you complete it, immediately find a new place to focus your energy.

2. Sexual strategy is amoral. You have to do what you have to do to get what you want. Women do this naturally, but men have to learn it, because most of us are taught that there’s a moral aspect to love. Love is beautiful, and your feelings toward her are real, but any relationship is entirely conditional. And as Orion Taraban has noted, being virtuous is good for you, but it does not mean that you’ll confer any benefits from being a “good guy.” We should strive to be and do good in the world, but only because that is good for us. To the extent you have to break the rules, however, break them.

3. People are ruled by evolutionary instincts. We are products of the environment we survived for hundreds of thousands of years, and even millions before our subspecies branched off from other hominids. This is why misogyny is silly. Women are the way they are, especially when it comes to sexual relationships, because they evolved to select the strongest men who could provide them the greatest access to resources. Hypergamy is successful, and the reason it is expressing itself today so violently, is that women, through dating apps and social media, now have access to every man on the planet, whereas up til about 1980ish, society was controlled by monogamy and children.

4. Society only values men who are successful. Men who aren’t successful will get no attention, and no sympathy. This will not change, because men who aren’t successful aren’t what society needs to thrive. Society needs men who create value, so that others can enjoy a relatively carefree life. This ignores the fact that we need ditch diggers, sanitation workers, landscapers, etc.—but no one cares about those guys. We should—I do—but to society at large they are invisible cogs in the machine.

5. Make Lifting and Fitness your top priority. This should be part of your mission. From what I’ve seen, if you can be under 20% BF (15 is better yet), and you have big shoulders and strong arms, you will vastly outpace most men around you.

6. Read. Or at least listen to podcasts and audio books. To be a top guy, we need to be smart, knowledgeable, and aware of every strategy out there, as well as what new technology and trends we should incorporate into our work, business, and Game. Start with Robert Greene’s 48 Laws of Power.

7. Build Wealth. We all know that women value men with means, but this is important for you as well. If you’re struggling with money, it’s very difficult to thrive as a man. This might mean you need to change careers, and if you’re a young guy, it means that whatever career you choose, make sure it’s something where you can eventually earn in excess of six figures. Scott Galloway has a great book called The Algebra of Wealth—other good books: The 4 Hour Work Week, Million Dollar Weekend, and How to Win Friends and Influence People. The last one isn’t directly about making money, but it teaches the skills you will need to be a successful business man and salesperson. Every thing is life is sales.

If I’ve forgotten anything, please drop them in the comments, but you get the point. Again, you have to do what you have to do, for you. The only person who can love you unconditionally is your mother, and hopefully she does, but for everyone else, your connection is only determined by the value you can deliver for others. Men will help each other if there is a common bond, but each man has to look out for his own best interests. Teachers and mentors only want to help students who are willing to learn. There’s no free lunch once you become an adult man.

So, while this is true for all of us, it’s particularly important for young men. Guys, you have to develop the skills, talents, and abilities that will raise you to high status—start now. Arguing on social media, or getting drawn into a debate about morality, or attempting to shame society or women for the state of the world, will get you no where. The world is what it is: we have to adjust, either playing within the rules of the game, or breaking the rules if and when necessary (don’t break the law though!).

Part of the reason that I say, “there’s never been a better time to be a player” is that most men won’t do these things. Your competition is nil. If you follow the Seven TRP Principles Above, you will easily establish yourself in the top 20, if not 10% of men. If you venture on Reddit or TikTok, you’ll see a lot of guys complaining they can’t get dates, or aren’t successful with women. Why? Because they don’t understand the game, or if they do, aren’t willing to do what it takes to win. I honestly feel bad for the guys who won’t ever learn this stuff because they’ve swallowed society’s cue that TRP is bad and wrong. Again, it is not. Look at any wealthy, successful man. If he doesn’t explicitly endorse TRP, he’s embodying the philosophy.

Hope this helps, and look forward to your thoughts and questions!