Prolific online dating selects for delusional chicks

Here is a specific example of the kind of statement I see frequently and I'm sure you have too, if you hang out in pickup and men's Internet:

Part of the problem is that American chicks are just super fucking flighty, stupid, and picky: selection bias means the chicks on online dating are going to be more flaky, stupid, and picky than chicks who have their shit together.

Two of the most interesting girls I've met in the last four years or so, Short Dancer and Ms. Slav, both say they've never done online dating. Never. Zero times. No Tinder. They meet men (and women, for Ms. Slav) in real life, at parties, etc. They could be lying, sure, but I don't know why they would. Both of them have reasonable expectations of men, in my opinion, and they're both hot. Not hard 9, Playboy-bunny hot... but very few guys would be unhappy with either. Some of the most delusional girls I know, however, have done online dating... a lot of it. Just talking to girls and noticing the ones who complain about online/not being able to get a boyfriend, versus the ones who have reasonable expectations and try to like guys in real life (as opposed to defaulting to NOT liking them and disqualifying them), shows huge differences between the two. I suspect I also have unusual experience among guys writing about the game online because I know and have met a lot of girls, so I get to hear them talk, think, and cogitate. That means I get to hear some delusional thinking, sure, yes... but their words and actions, parsed correctly, do yield insight, over time, when aggregated.

Reasonable girls know there are tons of decent guys out there. Guys who are employed and have normal bodies/personalities. If a girl is not f**king nuts, she won't be online for long, cause she'll meet a guy who is okay... and she'll start dating him. Maybe he won't be a male 9 and spit tight super entertaining game... but if she's able to look past some initial fumbling, she gets a boyfriend. If not, and if she has unreasonable expectations... she is online, a LOT. Girls who reject every guy who starts with "Hey" or "how are you?", are going to select for guys who are clever players. Girls who reject every guy who isn't at least 1 and ideally 2 points above them in terms of sexual market value (SMV) will spend a lot of time online dating, cause their market isn't clearing. They will get a lot of sex from higher status guys... who will then drop them... leading them to complain about men... while never looking at their own behavior.

By contrast... I'm thinking of this girl I've known for a while, Jane, who was like a 6.... and did online dating for like 5+ years (not sure what she's up to these days cause I lost interest)... yet despite being a 6, Jane had the personality of a bitchy 8.5+. She was online constantly, with her f**ked up psychology, going through guys and complaining about guys. Her friends were similar... all the friends stated that they wanted boyfriends but somehow none of them could quite hang onto them. They were all young, and some adopted the modern feminist man-hating ethos and pose, which further hurts their ability to get boyfriends... you can't date a person whose whole class you have taught yourself to hate (men with an underlying hatred of women also do poorly... a lot of older women with declining SMV become bitter towards men as a class, which is a reason they're often dangerous to date). Jane and her friends are the kinds of girls Red Pill guys complain about.

The Short Dancers and Ms. Slavs of the world... RP guys don't complain about (well, they might complain about Ms. Slav's love of sex and uninterest in monogamy, but that's another story...). The Short Dancers of the world are probably invisible to most Red Pill guys. She's spent most of her time in a relationship.

The Market for Lemons is a famous paper describing how online dating markets have evolved. In my experience, in the 2009 - 2015 period, online was weird/unusual/thin enough that a lot of chicks on it either had niche tastes or really needed to meet new guys, cause they weren't offline. They had sufficiently few options that they weren't totally nuts. Now, however, the online markets are much thicker but normal chicks want to get out of them quickly.... and they do. They maybe spend a few weeks on Tinder. They are not idiots, so they go out on dates pretty quickly and evaluate the guy in person. They know there are lots of decent guys out there. They pick one and get offline. If he is image matched to them, the relationship goes well.

Example: last time I checked, Short Dancer seemed to be dating a male 6, for some reason. No idea why... could be that she wants monogamy real bad and is willing to compromise to get it. She's at least a high 7 and I'd give her a solid 8. But if she is serious about monogamy, she is likely getting it, and the guy is probably stunned to be getting a girl as hot as her. I think there are more girls like Short Dancer out there than we give credit for... but they are almost all in relationships, if they want to be. If "Katie," the girl I wrote about a few days ago, were young and in the market today, I bet she would do no or minimal online dating.

It's easy to sort girls who are really interested in meeting a guy, because they want to meet pretty quickly, even for a 45-minute coffee. The flakey ones want to have long, drawn-out, and pointless online conversations with guys (you can guess who stays on the market).

I have also heard daygame guys say that, if they do a lot of daygame, and then do online, they will sometimes run into girls they daygamed online. And those are much more productive matches.

With this particular girl–let’s call her Double Take–we text a bit on Tinder and then I ask for her number, which she gives. I set up the date for the next day, she agrees, game on.

While we’re texting that day, however, it comes out that I’ve day gamed her! She rejected me, of course, because chicks are rational lol.

I honestly didn’t remember, but she insists I tried to get her number sometime before and that was why she swiped on me.

Obviously daygame is not relevant during coronavirus, but at some point coronavirus will pass or we will get treatments for it, and the game will remain.

Smart guys, today, are figuring out how to get offline to meet chicks, or combine offline/online in a smart way. Even back when online worked fairly well for me, I always did some combination of online and offline. I have also been interested in photography for a long time, and that has helped. Even if you are a good-looking guy, if your photos don't show it, you will fail. There is serious data showing this. Shirtless bathroom selfies don't cut it. I have pics of me where I probably look like a male 5 and pics where I might look like a male 9. Maybe that's an exaggeration, but ones that look great. None of the best-looking ones were taken by a cell phone, either, I want to emphasize. The camera is useless if you're not doing anything interesting, but doing a lot of interesting things and not having visual evidence of it is not useful for online dating. Maybe that sounds like a lot of work, but there is no way around doing the work for a non-elite guy. Girls complaining about online usually have not done the work, internally or externally.