One I got and then didn't want

Not sure why, but today I was reminded of a girl, "Katy," who I met through the scene. She was married and poly but also, surprisingly, attractive. I thought so, at least. We'd flirted here and there, but she eventually broke it off with her long-term boyfriend, and I somehow ended up going on some dates with her. I expected things to go straight to sex, but she's more of the "poly" part of the open relationship universe, rather than the "swinging" part of the universe, so we went on some dates.

I don't remember much of the dates, apart from the fact that I liked her, and she liked me, especially because she couldn't rattle me (though she kept trying, softly). I think when I finally got her back to my place, it was in an afternoon. She has an unusual job that oscillates between extreme hours and no work. We may even have gotten together on a weekday or holiday.

The thing I remember most is the letdown feeling when she was finally naked and I was there to f**k her. I'd seen her in lingerie before. I'd seen her f**king before, albeit from a distance and in dim lighting. She is very tall, but not quite as lean as I would have liked. She is the sort of woman who, if she quit sugar, would probably add a point. But she's not as disciplined as me in that respect. She still wasn't bad looking, but for whatever reason we did not match. She was not as hot as I would have liked, and some girls just drive me crazy by their smell, by their essence, by their being. She is not one of them. I hate to sound like a chick, but there is an element of "chemistry" in attraction, especially with chicks who are not 8+.

I like to say that you're rarely fully aware of how hot a girl really is until you see her naked. Some girls get bumped up a point or two, some down a point or two. This one bumped down. Some of these girls I have way under-estimated, some, like Katy, I have over-estimated. In personality terms, Katy has an edge I like, but not so much edge that she loses her sense of playfulness. Yet I couldn't get properly excited about her in bed. She is the kind of girl I would have happily f**ked as a teen or in my early 20s, for sport and pleasure, when just getting inside an acceptable woman was a monumental event. By the time I found Katy it was less monumental and I was more discerning. Too discerning, it turned out, or we were just wrong for each other.

I know some guys only want what they can't have, and when they get a chick, they lose interest in her. That has not been me. But when I get a chick and am disappointed with what I realize I've gotten, I know it.

Now I still see her at parties every so often, but we say hi and that's about it.

There is no real learning point to this story; it's just a small slice of my life.