[FR] Met by accident on a bike

Don't open? Don't win.

(2017)

This morning I was riding and came to a tricky section, and a girl was slowing down in front of me. I told her to take lead, and she told me to, so like a gentleman I did. When we passed the tricky section I slowed and said that I was glad we'd gotten through. She agreed and I asked where she's going. She said yoga (a good sign) and I told her I'd been trying it as a supplement to weightlifting (turns out I needed time on the vibrating foam roller more than yoga, but that's another story). A little too gay and friendly, maybe, but it popped out. We talked about yoga and I told her to wait at the next light, because I want to get her number.

At the light I pulled out my phone and gave it to her and said that life is like waiting at the light: if you don't act quickly the opportunity goes away.

A pretty basic interaction overall, but her energy was high. I've promised myself that I'm going to stop hitting on women and dating for a while in order to recover myself, but this morning I slipped into old habits… I brought more energy to the interaction than I have in many recent interactions. When you've conditioned yourself to flirt as long as I have, you get used to acting in the moment. The skill is drilled and thus it’s easy to slip into the form. Dancers are always dancing, players are always playing. She gave me the phone back and I said I looked forward to seeing her and gave her hand a little squeeze. That surprised her. Not sure if it's in a good or bad way.

She rode off.

Yeah, yeah, I know that I wrote about how I almost never write field reports... only to keep writing field reports. If I notice a situation that might have useful learning points for other guys I'll write about it.