Field Report: back in the game!

Volume was low, but I did manage to get at least one number.

After three and half years of being locked down in a long term relationship, I did my first session of daygame yesterday.

Only four sets—volume was low, and then to make matters worse it started raining. But I did manage to get a number, so not all was lost, and more importantly, it gave me a chance to dust off some of the rust that’s been building up these past few years.

To review, here are the sets:

With sets two and four, not sure what I really could’ve done differently. Sometimes chicks just don’t want to talk, and number four really didn’t want to talk—honestly, one of the harsher blow-outs I’ve experienced in the 1000s of approaches I’ve done in my life. She was super hot, but my guess is she was having a bad day, because most women aren’t that demonstrative when rejecting you. For guys that are scared to approach, remember: 80-90% of your attempts will be positive experiences. You might not get the number, because she has a BF (like #1) or isn’t interested for some other reason, but she won’t be mean about it. Indeed, a lot of women have thanked me for approaching—and they should! Like, what girl doesn’t like hearing that she’s pretty in some form or fashion?

Then, some of the time when you’ll just get ignored, which is what happened with the busty blonde on set #2. And that’s fine—just move on if she’s not responding, especially if you know that she heard you. This is why I tried to open her twice: the first time I said it looked like she was ready to go to a hot yoga class (dressed in yoga pants with an athletic top and Nike hoodie to match). No response, so I simply said, “how’s your day going so far?” Maybe not the best, but I’m rusty! Anyway, when she didn’t respond to that one I just kept walking. She for sure heard me—probably both times—and wasn’t biting. Nothing you can do about that.

Set #3 of course, was the big winner! There’s an awesome, massive bookstore where I live, and let me tell you fellas, it’s fucking gold. I’ve gotten so many numbers in that place, and there are always at least a few hotties to talk to. Helps to be well read—if you’re hitting on girls who like books, but you don’t read, you have a lot less to talk about. It’s also a place you can go when it’s raining, as it often does where I live. Other good places when it’s raining: Whole Foods or other upscale grocery stores, malls, shopping centers, and streets with lots of clothing or jewelry stores where you can pop inside a bunch of places where there might be cute chicks.

We’ll see if she actually comes out—lots of women flake after giving the number—but there are two things I always do, or try to do, when I get a number:

1. Seed the date. In this case I said, “I think I’m free Thursday night—I know a good place for bubble tea we should go, I’ll text you.” Chicks are less likely to flake if you put the idea of what the date will be in their head before you text her to set it up and confirm.

2. Text 5-10 minutes after you leave: “hey X, nice meeting you, Name 😉”

If she responds right away, that’s great, but it’s also fine if she doesn’t—I’ve had chicks who responded not come out, and vice versa. Either way, after that initial text, I’m going to wait 24-48 hours to send the next one, so I’ll probably text her tonight, or sometime midday Tuesday (never text before 10am) to do a bit of flirty banter before setting up the date.

IME, doing these two things will cut down on the flake rate, although chicks are random, so there’s never any guarantee. We’ll see if she comes out…

That’s all for today—thank you Mr. Blackwing for getting me out! I didn’t get 10 approaches like I said I would, but four is better than nothing.