Bike Girl: One year away thoughts
Bike Girl ended a year ago, and I've already forgotten most of the details of the end... I wish I'd started writing the blog sooner, as many of the details around various chicks have faded away. There is no substitute for writing very close to the events as they happen in real time. Everything becomes abstract and mushy, given sufficient distance. I've been encouraging many guys to write their players journey blogs, and the value of fresh material is part of the reason why... the value of random search engine traffic is another... mostly you should write for yourself, but the fact that you might reach some other poor suffering dude is a nice bonus. It is up to you to create the culture you want, not the culture of feminism, man-hate, and ineffectiveness that exists today.
About Bike Girl, "Anastasia" asked on Twitter, "Have you heard about her after?" Not too much: little bit here and there... we kept fucking for a while after the breakup, but we are too different. She is more looking for a guy who is kinda chill and matches her, or a guy who will take care of her (likely financially)... I am neither... she wouldn't put it that way, though. "Fort Worth Playboy" asked on Twitter, "How would she frame it?" A good question. I think she'd frame it as "Red Quest is a jerk and a player who takes advantage of me." She'd think I pretend to offer girls one thing, then don't follow up on it... she was ready to move to the next stage and I cruelly ditched her. She is pretty enough that she can find guys who will happily commit to her... she has a few in her orbit... like so many chicks she's most into a guy who won't commit to her room, board, and upkeep. I'm a little harsh in the last sentence, as she did have a job when I was with her. But only a little.
I think I confuse some chicks, because I don't really read as fuckboy (contra this, which reveals more about the quality of Low-cut top girl's mind and thinking than it does about me), but I also don't really read as monogamous "good guy." So chicks don't really know how to categorize me... The ones I get along with, aren't bothered by this. The chicks who are happy doing something a little different than the standard categories (e.g. consensual non-monogamy), often like me quite a bit because they get to be different. The ones who want the usual are often flummoxed. The ones who like me are okay thinking in shades of gray, rather than black and white. In conversation I ask a lot of "Why?" and "How do we know that?" and "Are we certain of that?" kinds of questions. Not in a mean way... I don't try to use them as cudgels... but in a searching way... and girls who are searching like those questions... girls who already know everything don't like them very much. Girls who want a straightforward, direct path into marriage, are not going to be into me. Most hot girls want a challenge, though.
I think you can tell the kind of girl I like, the chicks who are happy doing something a little different than the standard categories (like consensual non-monogamy), often like me quite a bit because they get to be different. Chicks who like rigid categories need to find guys who fit in those categories.
I hope Bike Girl is doing well. I could ping her again... last I heard I believe she was dating someone. I wish her well... but she is going to have a tough time trying to get a "got it all" (looks + money + charisma) guy. She can get a guy w/ one or two of those, I think. She seems like the kind of chick who will keep looking for the "just right" guy, as her 40th birthday sails past and her fertility window closes. Many women stay on the shelf too long... it's sad, but common, maybe increasingly common. Our idiotic culture tells women that she should HAVE IT ALL. Stupid. But almost no one "has it all." Not men. Not women. No one in our culture tells men that we need to "have it all." I wonder why.
(That last statement is sarcastic.)
With the blog, Nash says, "I can tell by the way you write that pieces are 'fresh,' they aren't stewed-on for weeks... and I appreciate that about your writing. I want to do more of that." Some of them I sit on for too long... not all, though. I'm a fan of the 12" MacBook and similar computers for their portability... Framework is excellent, runs Linux effectively... got an idea? Pop in for coffee, execute it, move on. It's amazing how far tech has come... laptops used to have to be big and heavy to be functional... now they don't. By the way, don't buy a 12" MacBook the day this is being published in May 2019, as they are overdue for an update. (UPDATE: The 12" MacBook is dead and now replaced by the 13" MacBook Air. A less portable machine and I wish the 12" MacBook had been updated.)
I was tempted at times to start the blog earlier, but I didn't because I knew it would suck up more time and energy than is desirable. I remember previous girls, that they existed, a few things about them and about us... but not the stuff that speaks to how it really was. Strangely, my habit of making sex tapes provides many of those details for other girls. One of my favorite girls, I haven't written a lot about here, but I think about her a lot.
She was likely a high 7 / low 8, principally due to her youth and hobbies (dancing). For whatever reason I connected with her strongly, but she did not want to do what I wanted to do (sex clubs), and I let her go. I wonder if I should have stuck with her longer... of all the chicks I've slept with, for some reason she stays with me the most. One of the early times we fucked, probably the third or fourth, at the end of it she sighed happily and said, "I needed that." A little moment... a minor one... one I would have forgotten if not for the video... but the way she says it... it's nice, like a few seconds later when she said that she'd been thinking about seeing me all day. She sounds so satisfied. Very satisfying to me in turn.
Sometimes I leave the camera on for a while after the sex, and the conversation after is tremendously interesting. I think people are more honest and less guarded right after fucking. I didn't realize that making fuck tapes would catch some of those moments. Come for the smut, stay for the talking.
I have some more stories I need to finish, but I don't think they have much in the way of real learning points, so they don't seem urgent. I have been doing a bit of cold approach, but not in a good or consistent way... my head space has been bad for that, and it shows.