Asian guys, dating, the game, and embracing the struggle
Asian guys, dating, the game, and embracing the struggle
Struggle is progress
I've met Asians guy who f**k lots of girls, of any and all races, and they have a few things in common: they lift or are at least fit, they've got good fashion/style, they have good interpersonal skills, they're not afraid to approach chicks (or they conquer their approach fear)... there are probably a couple other things they commonly do that don't come to mind right away, but look at that list and notice how it’s not specific to Asian guys. It's what guys who're good at sleeping with lots of girls do.
I've talked to Asian guys who're learning the game, and at the start of their journeys, they often think they have some special stigma around being Asian, when most often they don't. Their problem is weak game, and, like any guys who do poorly with chicks, they have to learn good game, if they want to wildly succeed. Wild success is extremely possible for Asian guys, as it is for white guys, black guys, Latino guys, etc. The topic arises cause of this extremely lame, but slightly interesting, article, “Men’s Rights Asians” Think This Is Their Moment. Asians have men's rights activists? I hesitate to call it an "article" cause the writer spent a few hours on Reddit and then boom! he calls it “research”… that passes for “journalism” today. Journalists are too lazy to leave their couches. I deserve a f**kin’ Pulitzer Prize for getting off my ass and reporting on the wilds of the modern sexual marketplace.
The article says that there are Asian race traitors who've joined the anti-Asian social-justice warrior movement... and that is likely true. And sad. But the article also gives examples of loser brigading Asian guys who'd be better off sharpening their game than harassing randoms on the Internet. A lot of these guys are very interested in what Asian chicks do...
"The posts are dotted with contemptuous mentions of WMAF: white male–Asian female relationships. Bananarang refers derisively to an Asian woman who’s previously dated white men but is currently seeking a relationship with an Asian man. PAA, or 'progressive Asian activist,' is a pejorative term similar to 'social justice warrior' for Asians who ascribe to liberal, feminist values."
Okay, some of these are pretty funny, and I hope to one day accuse a hot Asian chick of being a bananarang. I personally don't care much what Asian or white or Latino chicks are doing unless they're hot and bending over in front of me... it's most helpful for guys to focus on improving themselves, not worrying about what everyone else is doing. Asian chicks are chicks, doing chick things and having chick desires. The vital question is, what is any given guy doing to fulfill those desires? Whining about being Asian on the Internet isn't going to make a guy into a superior player.
Guys who want to f**k more and hotter girls have more in common with one another, regardless of race, than we do with chicks, regardless of race (I believe this qualifies me as an "intersectional feminist"). Chicks want to f**k who they want to f**k... for chicks, telling guys not to prefer big boobs, a high tight ass, smooth supple skin, solid shaving/grooming, etc., is a loser's game. Guys aren't going to change our preference in response to chicks telling us to. Tell a guy he should prefer older, heavier chicks and he might nod along... but he's still going to seek the hotter chicks. The other way around is also true, telling Asian chicks they should prefer Asian men cause of some kind of race solidarity or whatever will fail. Chicks like hot, just like guys do, although the average preferences of chicks and guys differ.
If there's anything Asian-specific to customize in the game for Asian guys, it might be to be a little more aggressive in pursuing girls, to counteract the stereotype of Asian guys as being overly passive. Apart from that, the way Asian guys do well in the game is pretty much the same as the way guys in general do well at the game. The challenge seems to be that Asian immigrant parents prioritize scholastic achievement over everything else, driving their kids from an early age to ace school tests. All else being equal chicks prefer "smarter" guys, but chicks really really prefer hot guys who make them tingle.
An Asian guy who doesn't start optimize for generating tingles and flirting until college or later is going to be behind a typical white, black, or Hispanic guy's stage of social development for a given age, if he's had that sort of parent. This level of being behind doesn't apply nearly as much to Asian girls, though, because guys will begin hitting on Asian girls whenever the girls reach maturity. By the time a cute Asian girl is 20, she's likely had dozens or hundreds of more aggressive guys hitting on her. An Asian guy may have to develop those flirting skills, that other guys learn from older guys or from locker rooms and such.
Life course makes a difference, but regardless of a guy's age when he learns about the game and how to systematically practice and master it, what's the alternative? He can't go back in time and make himself start learning the game when he was in middle school. There are Asian guys who grew up with academically obsessed parents who learned the game later on. Go find those guys and learn from them. Much game knowledge is free, online. Learn it, practice it, tell others what you've found. Some Asian guys appear to have mental barriers to success. I don't know how to overcome those, but I do know that lifting heavy, practicing jiu-jitsu, opening one's self emotionally with psychedelics, developing positive mindset, and similar strategies are important. Learning to understand and forgive one's parents is important too.
Many stories about heroes overcoming adversity entail physical and mental training, often together... an Asian guy with mental blockages between him and tight p***y may have to undergo those trials. There is no easy way: there is only the hard way. Maybe there's an analogue here to what some black people think, if they internalize the message that blacks are dumb or violent or whatever.
Coddling doesn't work. One reason the military successfully makes many boys into men is that, whatever the flaws of service, coddling isn't one. Time on reddit complaining about racism against Asians isn't going to get any guy p***y. Maybe some of these Asian sites and reddits about resentment can ensnare Asians with anger... but to advance, it's necessary to move past anger and into action. Being mired in anger is like being a mammoth stuck in a tar pit.
Will you be the guy changing the media dynamic by uploading your homemade Asian male, white female pr0n? Or will you be the guy jerking it to someone else's material? I could be an Asian guy: you don't know. I am no one, but the voice in your mind, whispering about how to better f**k more and hotter chicks. Will you listen?
